Right and Wrong Doesn’t Come in 50 Shades of Any Color

Many of my Facebook friends are boycotting a certain movie that’s coming out this weekend (and, presumably, the book that inspired it). They are, in turn, encouraging all of their Facebook friends to do the same thing. They don’t want to promote and support sexual assault/abuse, they say, and that is what they claim the story is all about. That’s why they have a problem with it.

I have also been boycotting the same book/movie, and will continue to do so. In fact, I have been boycotting it so much that I wasn’t even going to acknowledge its existence. But the things I’ve been seeing and hearing lately on the subject prompted me to address it.

Just as some of my friends plan not to, I of course will also not be supporting this book/movie. But my perception is slightly different from theirs. I’m not boycotting it because of whatever the story is all about. I’m not even entering that debate. My line of thinking didn’t even go that far when I was presented with the book/movie material. My line of thinking stopped immediately upon the realization that this work of fiction is nothing short of pornography. From what I can tell, the entire story line revolves around the intimate and explicit details of a couple’s physical relations – an unmarried couple, at that.

What a mark of where our society is. A book/movie is built entirely on lewd content and people don’t have a problem with that.

Wait, what? When did this type of material and behavior become okay – even welcomed in polite society?

What we see, hear, think about has an effect on us, one way or another. The more we give in to pornographic material, the more we compromise our character. We lessen the value of (real!) relationships, we entertain sinful thoughts which can lead very easily to sinful actions, we contemplate things that we should never be dwelling on, we accept certain behavior that should not be accepted. It’s disrespectful to ourselves and every human being around us. Why are relationships are in such sad shape and falling apart? Because if this is the kind of trash we consume, then we are not going to appreciate the true worth of something valuable when we are presented with it.

Christians, I’m speaking directly to you now – God has graciously provided instruction on what love is, how relationships should work, how to respect one another, how to bring glory to God. Too much of what we seek and too much of the way we live is exactly the opposite of this, and is harmful to us.

So forgive me, but I will not boycott this book-about-to-be-released-as-a-movie because of whatever assault or abuse you think is contained in it.

I will boycott it because it flies in the face of everything I should stand for as a Christian, because of the rank pornography and sinful lifestyle it promotes, because THAT is the real issue here, not my opinion of one fictional character’s intentions toward another fictional character.

“Act Like a Fairy Tale Character” Day

My friend Crystal and I were watching “Enchanted” together.

(Let me just tell you we were watching it while we were working out on the elliptical machines together at the gym. Can’t have you thinking we are lazy slackers or anything like that!)

In case you haven’t seen it, I’ll give you a quick summary. For starters, it’s a Disney movie. A young woman (Giselle) lives in a typical fairy tale land complete with talking and singing animals. She’s singing and daydreaming about a prince, who hears her voice and comes to find her and save her from a troll. In short, they meet and fall in love and he declares they will be married in the morning!

And that’s all within the first 5 minutes.

Time for a plot twist! Giselle is on her way to her wedding, in a ridiculously puffy white gown and everything is perfect. Until she meets an old woman who leads her to a wishing well. Giselle wishes for happily ever after with the contented smile that comes with knowing the wish is certain to come true. Then the old woman pushes her into this bottomless pit of a wishing well and sends her to a place where “there are no happily-ever-afters” as she tells her sidekick/minion/servant/guy. That place is here, the real world.

That’s all the information you need for my the point I’m going to make. I don’t want to ruin the rest of the movie for you, because I am a strong supporter of everyone seeing this movie, as I am for most Disney movies.

I told Crystal, “Culture shock. That’s me every time I leave my house.”

Crystal and I were joking about fairy tales and how corny they can be sometimes – especially this movie which is purposely corny at the beginning. But even while we make fun of these stories, we wish things could be that simple. If only I could have a prince show up in my life to save me from whatever danger I am in and guarantee a happily-ever-after for me. Sounds perfect, right? I have two propositions in regard to this statement.

  1. As a Christian, I can rest assured my Prince has already saved me from the danger of sin and has guaranteed a happily-ever-after for me. Because my happily-ever-after is secured by Christ, I don’t have to be concerned that it won’t happen. My hope is in the Lord, and it is the Biblical hope which means it is a confident expectation – I know it will happen because Christ has said it will!
  2. Sometimes I feel as though I am stuck in the world where “there are no happily ever afters.” But that is because I have taken my focus off Christ, I am not keeping my eyes on the prize that is set before me. When I look at the world, put my trust in people, look for a fairy-tale prince among the men of the world, it is easy to grow discouraged. I need to remember that God is the Author and Finisher of faith and stop trying to find my happily-ever-after on Earth. My treasure is in Heaven!

I am, without question, a happily-ever-after kind of girl. What an awesome thing it is to know, even while I’m still in the middle of my story, that I will have a happily-ever-after forever in Heaven with my Saviour! And it’s the same for every other Christian (even the men, although this post was clearly written from a woman’s point of view!).

Crystal and I also decided that we need to have an “Act Like a Fairy Tale Character” Day. Hey, we already have a “Talk Like a Pirate” Day, so it’s not that much of a stretch if you think of it.

I love talking about fairy tales. Who is your favorite fairy tale character and why?